Why Narcissistic Men Are Drawn to Spiritual Women (and What to Do About It)

May 5
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Updated: May 5

Why Narcissistic Men Are Drawn to Spiritual Women (and What to Do About It)

By Sex Priestess Luna Ora

There’s a particular kind of man who gets magnetized to spiritual women.

Not because he reveres her light. Not because he desires to rise into his power and meet her there. But because her light threatens everything false inside of him.

He seeks her like a moth seeks a candle—not out of love, but out of instinct. An instinct to consume, to extinguish, to control what he cannot become.

And if you’re reading this, it’s probably because you know this experience deep in your bones.

The Narcissist & The Priestess

When a man who lives in ego, illusion, and manipulation encounters a spiritual woman—a truly awakened, intuitive, sovereign being—he feels both awe and terror.

She is not just beautiful to him. She is disruptive. She sees what others miss. She listens beyond words. She responds to energy. She cannot be bought. She cannot be fooled.

And that? That drives him insane. Because she reminds him of the truth he’s been running from his entire life.

Let’s break this down into the five core reasons why narcissistic men chase spiritual women—and how to protect your sacred flame.

1. She Shines Light onto His Shadows

A spiritual woman doesn’t fall for charm or performance. She feels what’s unspoken.

She notices the flicker of pain behind his half-smile. She hears the tension in his voice when his words pretend to be kind. And without needing to be asked, she starts to pour love into his emptiness.

But here's the truth: he doesn't want to heal. He wants the feeling of being touched by the divine without having to become divine himself.

So instead of rising to meet her, he resents her. Her presence makes him feel exposed. Her love threatens the illusion he’s spent a lifetime constructing.

And that's when he flips—from adoring to devaluing. From clinging to attacking. Not because she changed—but because she saw him too deeply.

2. She Believes in His Potential (That He Will Never Live Up To)

A spiritual woman doesn’t fall for a man’s mask. She falls for his frequency.

She sees the little boy inside who was never held right. She sees the healer, the king, the visionary buried under the ego. She believes that if she just loves him purely enough, he will awaken.

But this man doesn't want to awaken. He wants to be worshipped without transformation.

She falls in love with his higher self. He gets addicted to being admired for a version of himself he never intends to become.

She touches his soul. He uses her insight to feed his performance.

3. She Forgives Far More Than She Should

She walks in the way of grace. She knows pain. She knows trauma. She’s healed herself from deep wounds.

And because she knows what it’s like to be unloved, she refuses to withhold love—even when it hurts her.

To her, forgiveness is sacred. To him, it’s a loophole.

He learns exactly how far she’ll bend before she breaks. He tests her, pushes her, crosses every line—because he knows she’ll keep choosing love over punishment.

Her refusal to give up on him becomes the very reason he continues to exploit her.

4. She Has Powerful Discernment—And He Tries to Use It Against Her

She is intuitive. She is ancient. She knows. She feels energy before words. She sees what doesn't align—even if she can’t explain it.

And because he cannot fully fool her, he does something more sinister: He starts to gaslight her.

He makes her question her instincts. Tells her she's being dramatic. Mocks her for feeling too much.

Over time, doubt enters. And once it does, he starts rewriting reality—using her spiritual language against her.

“You’re just projecting.” “You’re manifesting this.” “You’re too sensitive.”

He tries to separate her from her intuition—because once she’s disconnected from her truth, she’s easier to control.

5. He Uses Her Values As His Escape Route

A spiritual woman lives by deep codes. Her love isn’t performance. Her kindness isn’t convenience. She chooses compassion even when she’s hurting.

And this is what he preys on.

He knows she won’t seek revenge. He knows she’ll want to take the high road. He knows if he disappears, cries hard enough, or plays the victim—she might let him back in.

He hides behind her goodness. Twists her values into tools that protect him. And all the while, he feeds off her light while offering nothing in return.